Do you feel anxious about your sexual performance? Do you feel that this negatively impacts your relationships?

Sexual Difficulties

Intimate relationships, sex and reproduction are major factors in all our lives. Our belief system around this issue is initially formed from other people’s belief systems and later when we challenge these belief systems as we explore the world for ourselves. 

These beliefs and challenges may cause us anxiety at some stages of our lives. This anxiety may affect our physical ability and our emotional comfort during a sexual act making the anxiety worse.

What are the causes?

Often clients present with difficulty in achieving the levels of confidence needed to interact sexually with new members of their preferred sex.

There could be several issues driving this such as:

  • Underlying low self-esteem,

  • Unhappy with their physical appearance,

  • Past experience, historical relationship stress,

  • Fear of the unknown or the fear of not knowing what to say or the fear that your partner will not be able to agree with you, can exacerbate sexual dysfunction.

  • You may even feel the need to discuss and explore your sexuality.

hypnotherapy for sexual performance and anxiety
hypnotherapy for sexual performance and anxiety

Sexual performance anxiety can become a major issue for men - and the more important the relationship is to you, the more anxious you are likely to become about sex and your own performance.

Whether you suffer from premature ejaculation, impotence some other sexual difficulty, sexual anxiety only makes things worse.

Ultimately, a vicious circle is created, when worrying about your performance exacerbates the original problem, until the sexual performance anxiety becomes a problem.

Hypnotherapy for Sexual Difficulties.

Hypnosis has been used very successfully in the cases of angorsmia and premature ejaculation as well as cases where sexual dysfunction is due to fear, stress and anxiety. It cannot be used to fix a physical or medical issue.

In premature ejaculation it is believed that it is a partially subconscious habit and hypnosis works well with habits that are no longer useful. Hypnotic suggestions are given to assist people with lasting longer and the problem is often be alleviated and, in most cases, completely resolved.

Men can be helped by reducing performance anxiety and increasing awareness of their sensory perceptions that indicate when ejaculation is imminent. Hypnosis can be used as a diagnostic tool and to improve self-confidence. It can be used as tool in behaviour therapy and to facilitate resolution to unresolved conflicts. It is also important to realise the individuality of cases involving this issue. Hypnosis can also be used in conjunction with other treatment plans.

hypnotherapy for performance anxiety
hypnotherapy for performance anxiety

Erectile dystfunction

Also referred to as impotence, erectile dysfunction is when you are unable to get and maintain an erection. This is a common problem, especially in older people. While it is common, it can be upsetting and disrupting to your sex life. This can lead to increased stress and anxiety around sex and even avoidance.


If you’ve experienced issues for more than a few weeks, visit your doctor. They will be able to identify any underlying causes and offer treatment options.

therapy for sexual performance and confidence
therapy for sexual performance and confidence

Erectile dysfunction causes

Erectile dysfunction can happen for several reasons, including physical and psychological causes (and sometimes both). Some examples of physical causes include:

  • high blood pressure

  • diabetes

  • high cholesterol

  • hormone problems

  • post-surgery issues

  • injury

  • medication side-effects

  • excessive alcohol intake

  • using illegal drugs

  • tiredness 

Some examples of psychological causes include:

  • depression

  • anxiety

  • past sexual abuse/trauma

  • past sexual problems

  • relationship problems

For some, the issue starts because of a physical cause but the worry and anxiety about performance can create a psychological barrier. This can mean, even if the physical cause is addressed, the associated stress means the problem continues.

Breaking the worry cycle.

Treating the problem is all about uncovering the cause and treating it in a holistic way. There are many treatment options you may be offered, depending on what’s causing the problem.

Your doctor will likely start by helping with any underlying health concerns that are causing erectile dysfunction. This may involve you making some lifestyle changes to support cardiovascular health (such as reducing alcohol intake or making dietary changes).

If it has been proven that sexual dysfunction is not due to an underlying medical condition, hypnotherapy can help to support sexual function.

There may be an underlying limiting belief within your subconscious or an experience from your past that is blocking sexual function. @ Oneness Hypnotherapy we will support you in finding and addressing those limiting beliefs or experiences. 

Once those experiences and beliefs have been addressed then suggestion hypnosis will help your subconscious mind to change negatives into positives. This will help to restore sexual function so that you can live your life in a more satisfying way. 

hypnotherapy for for sexual relationships
hypnotherapy for for sexual relationships

How can hypnosis for erectile dysfunction help?

Hypnotherapy works by putting you into a state of deep relaxation (known as hypnosis). When we’re in this state, it’s thought that our subconscious is more open to suggestion. The aim of hypnosis here is to help you cope better in stressful situations and change the way you think about sex. When experiencing a sexual problem, being intimate can become an anxiety-provoking event.

If there is a psychological element at play with your erectile dysfunction, hypnotherapy could be worth exploring. Stress, anxiety and past events can both cause impotence and make it worse. Hypnotherapy can help with any subconscious thinking patterns and stress responses that are contributing to the problem.


Hypnotherapy can help a man change his negative future forecast - where he imagines the embarrassment and frustration of erectile dysfunction disrupting his sex life - into a positive future forecast: a mental picture of the future in which intimacy is easy and enjoyable once more.


Hypnotherapists can then offer different suggestions to our subconscious, encouraging new ways of thinking that benefit us.

As you relax and listen, you'll notice that you:


  • Begin to associate sex with enjoyment instead of anxiety

  • Feel more relaxed about sexual experiences

  • Feel more comfortable during sex.


Your sexual response is a natural part of you that has become conditioned through anxiety. Getting rid of that anxiety will enable your natural response to re-assert itself and allow you to enjoy sex again.